Every year I make a huge long list of New Year’s resolutions, ones that I think are really good ideas, but 99% of them not realistic. Each year I have the cliche, lose weight/get in shape and eat less sugar, both which last less than 24 hours and then I’m back to my old ways. So this year I vowed not to make a long list of resolutions, but to pick one thing. One thing that was really important to me to change, to get better at. The main thing that would help all of those other areas that I wanted to put on my big long list anyways.
That one thing is, less stress. It sounds almost like a joke. In fact when I said it out loud I laughed. The other day, on my birthday, my husband texted me and said, “Have a good day and just relax, don’t worry about things!”. All I texted back was, “Hahahaha” with one of those crying laughing emojis. The cold hard truth is that I am one GIANT ball of stress. If the situation isn’t stressful, oh I’ll make it. Just you watch. Oh that life event that’s working out perfectly so far, nope.
Why is it working out? Something is going to go wrong, what if this happens? What if this falls through? WAIT, I bet I’m going to get abducted by aliens, they’re going to keep me and then my baby won’t have a Mom and my husband won’t have a wife. Yep, that’s it, that’s why this isn’t going to work.
See the problem? (If you don’t, you suffer from it too, 😉 ) I called it “MESS”, AKA: Make Everything a Stressful Situation. Seriously though, the struggle is real. So finally the other day after watching some show about someone dying and then freaking out all night that someone I love was going to die, it hit me. THAT’S WHAT MY NEW YEARS RESOLUTION WILL BE.
Because while we’re being completely honest, all this stress leads to sad days, long nights, messy hair, unhealthy eating, all of it. So that list of eating healthy, brushing my hair, going on date nights, it’s all fixed by fixing this. So here’s my plan, the grand scheme of how I’m actually going to make this happen:
Don’t go there.
Oh you have a huge project due for work, a screaming baby and are running on 2 hours of sleep? The reality is–that sucks, but you love your job and you’ve done this a million times. You’ll get through it, so why even let your mind go to that dark eerie place?!
Take you time.
At the end of the day instead of jumping into the next big project or worrying about the house being a mess, take. a. step. back. Sit down on the couch, hold your babe, do anything but worry about what needs to be done next. Set a timer if you have to, ten minutes–that’s what I get. Ten minutes of pure freedom of not worrying what everyone else’s needs are-it’s me time and I’m soaking it up.
I think this one is the hardest, just trusting that things are going to work out. The world is not out to get you, no matter how much you may think it is. Trust that things will just work, even if it’s not in the order you had planned or the way you had thought, have faith. Don’t overthink things, which leads me to my next point…
We all do it, I do it on the daily. “Did that lady think I was rude the way I said thank you at the cash register? Oh my gosh I hope she didn’t. Should I go apologize? Maybe I should say I forgot something, go back in, buy that and then kill her with kindness.” I mean really how ridiculous does that sound? Exactly. Quit overthinking everything. The plan: I’m just going to go ahead and push that thought right out of my head. BYE BYE overthought thoughts.
The reality is I can say I’m going to do this, I can make this giant game plan like I just did, but it means nothing without patience and time. If you’re like me, these habits have been around pretty much your entire life. Meaning, it’s not going to just change over night. In fact, we will all probably mess up 20-30 times. That’s fine, as long as we’re trying!! In fact–we have all year long to get the hang of this.
So here’s the waving goodbye to stress in your life! Goodbye anxiety, overthought out thoughts, unrealistic worries and misery–we don’t need you! And hello 2016, filled with happiness, less stress and LOTS of snuggles with the fam!