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First off, I posted about this on Snapchat this morning and have been overwhelmed with gratitude from the loving comments, support and response from y’all. Seriously I can’t thank you all enough. Now, let’s chat…
I’ve gone back and forth on whether or not to post this, but y’all know I like to keep things real and this is as real as it gets. Plus it’s something that needs to be addressed for everyone.
This morning I woke up to a message that said this, “That’s weird that your baby started crawling at barely 7 months. Most babies that crawl that early it’s because they’re not held enough.” Followed by the hashtag #badmom
I am NOT a bad Mom, I know that for a fact. I love my baby more than life itself and would do anything for her. Yes, I work a LOT, sometimes 15 hours a day, but that’s just our lives and sometimes I don’t get to hold her nearly as much as I would like to. However, Grandma more than makes up for it and she is held and cuddled A LOT. But I DO NOT need to justify myself to you or anyone because I know I’m a good mom. You didn’t hurt my feelings, but you did make me realize something.
We have got to STOP this cyber bullying thing. Since when did it become okay to say something like that to anyone? Even if I do put myself and my family in the public (because that’s part of being a blogger), it’s not okay. How would you like it if someone called you a bad Mom? It goes so much further than this though. I’ve had things said to me since day one of blogging, however it’s gotten so much worse since becoming a Mom. I’ve been called awful names, yelled at for the most simple of things and bashed for my parenting. She’s too cold, her headband is too tight, I bought the wrong car seat, she apparently crawled too early, shouldn’t eat solids, the list goes on and on.
Shouldn’t we all be supporting each other? We are ALL doing the best we can, Mom or not. We are doing what’s best for us and our circumstances. Unless we’re physically harming ourselves or others it’s not anyone’s place to say anything. So I dug a little deeper to see the facts and read other stories because I feel so passionate about this.
Did you know that almost 50% of teens (not including adults) were victims of cyber bullying in the last year? and only a small percentage of them had people stand up for them.
That’s outrageous in my book. Why can’t we be nice to each other? The other thing I came to realize as I read more about this is there are so many resources for teens, but not many for adults. Trust me, bullying, especially cyber bullying continues into adulthood. And yes, there are amazing people out there. In fact most of you are so supportive and nice, but there’s always a few people that have to ruin it.
So I’m showing those people who’s boss today. You’re not going to hurt me with your words. I’m so much stronger than silly words, but not everyone is. I sure wasn’t as a teenager (you can read that story, here) but I am now and if I see it I will make sure to stand up for you. We all should be. And really Mom bullying and cyber bullying doesn’t get anyone anywhere. It only makes this job we have, Motherhood, even harder than it already is. So let’s knock. it. off.
I share my stories, our family and my experiences on my blog to spread love, support and realness. Not to be put down. I shouldn’t be afraid to post some things, to share realness or post certain pictures because I’m worried someone will say something negative. None of us should. So I’m challenging myself, I’m challenging all of you, next time you see someone being mean–stand up for the person it’s happening to and hashtag it with #projectigotyoback. It’s a funny hashtag, but really it should be. For me at least, making light of a mean situation makes it easier to get through.
So let’s make do this y’all. No one and I mean NO ONE deserves to be bullied, cyber or not.
Update: My point of this post is NOT to put down the person who said this to me or be mean to them, but to bring awareness to Mom shaming, cyber bullying, you know–people being mean, we need to stop, support, stand up for each other and love one another 🙂