Put your hand up if you feel like you’re drowning? Have lost it more times than you care to admit? And honestly just want to either hide in the pantry or JUST GET OUT OF THE HOUSE…or both? Is your hand up? Cool, mine too. I’m not even going to sugarcoat it, this has been challenging in SO many ways, but especially on my mental health. I’ve talked about it before but I’m currently on medication for anxiety and postpartum depression. My anxiety is definitely the worse of the two, but honestly they go hand in hand. Well, let me be real with y’all for a second…it’s been at a new all time high since this entire thing broke out. I’m not kidding when I say I’ve never experienced anxiety like this, this long. I’ve experienced it at this level…but not to the point where it lasts weeks. And I think honestly it’s because I’m basically locked in my house with two kids, a husband and supposed to keep my sh*t together, while running a business.
I’ve had more breakdowns than I care to admit…quite honestly I’ve found myself praying more than ever before..which is probably a good thing. I’m growing closer to God, but I’d be lying if I said it wasn’t exhausting. GUYS I’M TIRED. Not only from my anxiety, not only from working all day, being stuck in a house, but from kids who don’t want to sleep and just not getting the “me time” I so badly need. So..I made a game plan, I came up with some things that have definitely helped. Has it made my anxiety/postpartum depression go away? No…I mean medication works incredibly and makes it much better, but even that doesn’t make it disappear. But these things have helped immensely. And I want to share them with you because I know I’m not the only person struggling here.
- Schedule. THROW IT OUT THE WINDOW – to a point. I made a cute little schedule in rainbow colors, hung it on the wall in our kitchen and you know what? I followed it for all of half a day and honestly, it made me more stressed out when we fell behind and weren’t “on schedule”. SO TOSS IT. BUT here is where I say “to a point”. My life also needs some structure, my kids need some, that’s just how we personally function. SO I have a schedule, but without times and without specific things needing to happen. For example: when we get up, I immediately get everyone breakfast and then I work out (I NEED my work out). After that, we get ready for the day, Nash goes down for a nap and then I dive into work while Blake does some school work or honestly, watches TV (depends on the day). Nash wakes up from a nap, we eat lunch, then we hang out – outback, in the house, whatever, but this is our time to play and for me to really focus on JUST being a Mom. Eventually Nash starts getting fussy and it’s time for his second nap. He goes down, I work for a little bit – Marcus plays with Blake and then we switch. When Nash wakes up for a nap, we hang out – go with the flow of whatever needs to be done that day, then eat dinner. After dinner – if we can get outside (weather permitting) we do it – I NEED VITAMIN D. We go for a walk, play outside, whatever we can. Then it’s bath time and bed time for the kids. After that it’s me and Marcus time for a couple of hours, meaning I HAVE ZERO PLANS and do whatever we feel like – tv, phone time, chill, eat. Doesn’t matter. My point is – somewhat of a schedule works for us, but I don’t want specific times, when things happen, things happen and we are doing our best.
- Working out. I mentioned it above in my “schedule” but….let’s chat about it again. Working out is crucial to me. I need that me time not only for my mental health but just to feel good. You know what I’m saying. Honestly if you don’t want to work out, if it’s just not something that can happen that day – just move; walk around, go outside and walk, whatever.
- Vitamin B-12 and Vitamin D y’all. I took both before this, but I’m telling you they make a difference. ENERGY.
- DRIVE. There are days when you’re going to lose it…or everyday if you’re me at some point (haha) and you NEED to get out. Do it, but while practicing social distancing still. Go for a drive, do a Target drive up for essentials, go get Starbs, doesn’t matter but you can go for a drive and you can still “get out” to a point while still following social distancing.
- Social media. This can be a good AND a bad thing. Honestly for the most part it’s been a good thing for me – it’s kind of something I do at night to decompress. Both Marcus and I do. I know, I know, come on Jess…but let me just say it – download TikTok y’all. Hahah! There are so many cute/funny videos on there that honestly it’s a great distraction and it’ll make you smile/laugh and we all need that right now.
- Journal/write it out. I haven’t been great at journaling in years. I do the 5 minute gratitude journal on an app everyday and it’s simple and a good thing to remind you of the blessings you DO have. But I also invested in a Book of Mormon journal (you could do this with the bible or whatever your religion is) and it’s been really nice. I set a timer every night before I go to bed and I read/doodle/write in it. Linking the one I have, here.
- Me time. Find it, make it, do whatever you need to do to still find time for you. Honestly, mine used to be working out. Though that’s not an option really these days…instead I have two kids climbing on me the entire time. BUT, I find at least 15 minutes to just chill and be by myself everyday. Away from Marcus, the kids, everyone. AND GUYS, that doesn’t make you a bad person. We all need breaks. Take a bath, go outside on the patio, read in your room, whatever it is, FIND TIME FOR YOU.
Okay y’all…that’s all I’ve got here. If you have things working for you, share them in the comments then we can all learn and grab ideas from each other! Happy Quaranting/social distancing and I hope you guys are hanging in there!